My cousin, childhood friend, schoolmate, business partner, and biggest fan passed away after a long battle with a terminal illness. He was just 64. His demise leaves a hole in my heart that will never be filled. 

The loss will always be felt by his family and the film industry, for Pema was the liveliest person, the most loving father, and one of the most helpful persons that walked on this earth. He lived his life on his own terms. He gave everything and kept nothing for himself.

He took care of me like my elder brother in school, defended me fiercely, and cheered me at every success I achieved. He was happier for me than I was for myself and had greater confidence and belief in me than anyone in the world.

But there is one thing that the world can learn from Pema—optimism in the face of adversity and to never lose one’s sense of humor. In 2018, when he was diagnosed with a terminal disease and the doctors gave him a few months, he told my daughter that he would beat the disease and live much longer. He did and went on to live almost eight years. As he was about to get chemo and was recovering in a hospital in India, he kept sending me dirty jokes every day. 

He showed courage and strength that I had never known before. This is something that will stay with me, as I will miss his presence, our long conversations and ideas, and his encouragements.

Fare Thee Well, my brother. The earth beneath me already feels weak without you.